Because speedrunning small talk sucks.

About This Resource

Networking isn’t one-size-fits-all. And for introverts, the standard playbook often leads to overwhelm, not progress. Connection doesn’t have to come at the cost of your energy.

This guide is here to offer a more sustainable approach. One that protects your energy, honors your preferences, and still gets results. Whether you're job searching, exploring a transition, or simply trying to stay visible in your field, you can connect meaningfully without overwhelming yourself.

Understanding Introversion

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What is introversion, really?

Introversion is about how you manage and restore your energy. Introverts tend to recharge through solitude or calmer environments, whereas extraverts often thrive in group settings and spontaneous interaction. It’s why back-to-back meetings, large events, or constant socializing can feel exhausting for introverts, even when the interactions are positive. Ambiverts fall somewhere in between, with their energy needs shifting based on context.

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As you read this guide, try to ground yourself in these reminders:

• Introversion is not the same as shyness. It’s about how you recharge.
• Protecting your energy is a strategy. It helps you show up more fully when it matters most.
• You don’t need to become someone else to build strong relationships.

In-Person Networking

Not all IRL events are created equal, and you don’t have to say yes to everything. Focus on communities, settings, and formats that play to your strengths and interests.

Strategies to Try

1. Consider smaller, structured events. Think panels, dinners, or facilitated meetups.

   Why it works: These formats reduce the burden of initiating conversations and provide natural connection points.

2. Wear something distinctive or conversation-starting. A bold accessory or piece can do the talking for you.

   Why it works: It invites interaction (and maybe even compliments!) without requiring you to initiate.